Michelle Obama on Marital Troubles: ‘I Couldn’t Stand Him for 10 Years’

Despite the doubts that plagued her at the time, Obama does not regret sticking with her husband even in difficult times. “Marriage is never 50/50,” said the former first lady. “There are times I’m 70, he’s 30. There are times he’s 60, 40. But guess what? Ten years,” Michelle Obama said. “We’ve been for 30 [Jahren] married. I’d take 10 bad years for 30.”

In his book, the former President also tells how his relationship with the mother of his two daughters was enormously strained by his political ambitions, especially at the beginning of their marriage. In 1995, Barack Obama, as the Illinois state senator-elect, commuted between the state capital of Springfield and Chicago, where Michelle continued to practice law and care for baby Malia.

Obamas attended couples therapy

They “began to argue more, usually late at night when we were both thoroughly drained,” Barack writes. “I didn’t sign up for that, Barack,” Michelle once accused him. “I feel like I’m doing everything on my own.”

The conflicts increased. The couple struggled to make their marriage, family and career work. Michelle Obama also wrote about this difficult time in her 2018 bestseller Becoming, revealing that she and her husband went to couples therapy to save their relationship.

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